Ever since I had mentioned that I had been in a 2 year long distance relationship, I have had several emails and comments from amazing women who are in, or about to enter a long distance relationship and wanted to ask my advice. I have chosen to write a post about it rather than a video because I feel it would be better fitted for my blog rather than my channel.
So wow, where to I start? Without going in to too much detail, when I met my boyfriend I didn’t think he would turn out to be the love of my life. As harsh as that may sound, its true and if true love was what I was looking for at the time, I would not have chosen to start something up with someone who lived 1000 miles away from me. But I guess that’s the beauty of life for you, you never know what may happen and where you might end up, and although fairy tales are dead in my opinion, I do believe if something is meant to be it will happen. In my case it was not that we decided we were going to get into a long distance relationship (LDR for short ok?), we always knew that was the case because we didn’t have a choice. I think it’s a rather strange question when people ask me if I would advise couples to get in to a LDR because I don’t think anyone in their right mind would say “yea go for it, it’s a great idea!” Because its common knowledge that it’s really hard, and in many cases in destined to fail.
So how did we make it work? There really is no secret. Both sides need to really want it, and be totally, 100% committed because it is really hard, and I can assure you that there will be times you both want to give up because you just miss the other person so much. That is where like with any successful relationship, communication comes in. You need to make sure you talk to each other as much as possible so you are constantly present in your partners everyday life and with today’s technology there is no excuse not to talk and see one another everyday (and its free……..skype anyone?) and it really is super important. Another thing I know many of you worry about is how to make sure your partner does not suffer from a wondering eye because you are not around (because lets face it, we all have needs! Ha ha) and all I can say to that really is, if your guy is in love with you, it doesn’t matter if you are far away and who is always around, a man in love is not going to cheat. Simple in my opinion……
Thankfully we got through it, and have now been living together for almost a year which brings all new challenges to a relationship, but we will leave that for another post ..while I’m not in a perfect relationship and no expert on love a la Carrie Bradshaw, I can only talk from my own experience and while I do believe love is not enough to make a relationship to work , the romantic in me still believes YOU can make it work.